Ten Ways to Build Self Esteem

how to build self esteem

Your self-esteem is an important factor in self development. Having high self esteem will help you to live a happy life. It determines how much you think you are worth and affect your self confidence and your overall happiness.

Some people develop their self-esteem based on others opinions which is not authentic and can be dangerous. Why? Because other people’s opinions are personal and according to their values and can be inaccurate. When you know how to build your own self-esteem, no one can take it away from you.

how to build self esteem

First you must understand people’s opinions about you don’t determine your reality or what you are capable of. The only person who can do this is you.

Here are 10 tips on building your self confidence:

Tip #1 Don’t rely on others to feel good about yourself

If you count on what others say about you to feel good about yourself then you are doing a disservice to yourself and you will never be able to build up your own self-esteem.

People’s compliments can make you feel good about yourself but relying on compliments however can be detrimental to your self-esteem. You may find yourself obsessing about what others think and feeling down on days when no one comments on something nice about you.

This also means that you will dwell on negative comments or even criticism from other people.

Tip #2 Do things that make you feel good about yourself

What makes you happy? An interest or hobby, which is good for you and makes you happy, will help to boost your self-esteem. Doing things that are important to you and things that you are good at will increase your self-worth significantly.

Tip #3 Accept compliments
Do you accept compliment easily? Some people find it hard to accept compliment without giving a return compliment back. Learning how to accept a compliment can be hard for those with low self-esteem. Often they will shrug it off and be confused as to why someone is saying something nice about them.

As we’ve said before, you should never rely on compliments to determine your self-worth. On the other hand, you shouldn’t ignore them either. Embracing and accepting a nice comment from another person is important in building self-esteem. Next time when someone gives you a compliment, just fully accepted and say thank-you; do not deflect it by saying something nice about them immediately.

Tip #4 Help others

Helping others is a great way to feel good about yourself. You will feel good after you have genuinely offered your support to those who need it without asking for a return.

Helping others just because that’s who you are. Don’t just help others to make yourself look good, as that will not improve your self-esteem at all.

Tip #5 Take care of your appearance

Taking care of your body and appearance is not vain. It means that you love and respect yourself. Sometimes people with low self-esteem fall into a vicious cycle – they feel bad so they don’t take care of their appearance and then because they’re not taking care of themselves they feel even worse.

Tip #6 Be positive

Your self-esteem will thrive if you are a positive person. Looking at the positive things in your life will allow you to feel like you are worthy of being happy.

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Tip #7 Exercise

It’s a scientific fact that exercise releases endorphin and makes you feel better about yourself. When you exercise and take care of your body, this will affect your self-esteem in a positive way.

When you exercise, you look good and feel good. Your self esteem will skyrocket.

Tip #8  Learn to laugh at yourself

Laughing at yourself shows that you do not judge your flaws and mistakes and you accept them. Remember you are not the mistakes you make. Understanding the ups and downs of life will mean that your self-esteem remains even in the most challenging situations.

Self-esteem is the overall evaluation of what you think you are worth. Building up your self-esteem will also develop your self confidence and self worth. Understanding your self-worth will lead to a happier life and this will encourage others to treat you with the respect that you deserve.

Tip #9 Ignore negative influences

Some people around you may be Negative Nancy’s with self-destructive behavior that try to put you down. The key is to avoid these negative influences at all cost. They can drag you down or even discourage you from achieving your goals. You don’t need to be with them.

Tip #10 Celebrate your achievements

Celebrate each and every one of your achievements, no matter how big or small it is. This will help to increase your self esteem and get you into a resourceful state to achieve more.