Have you ever set goals and tried to achieve them and when it comes close to the finish line, something happened and screwed your progress?
Have you ever felt there is some resistance that stops you from achieving your goals?
Have you ever beaten yourself up because you said to yourself that you’d do something and then you didn’t?
When this happens, the reason behind it could be because your values are in conflict. So what are values and how do you determine them to help you achieve your goals?
According to Dr. John Demartini, everybody lives their life by a set of priorities, a set of values, from things that are most important and meaningful to them to the things that are least important and meaningful. Whenever they live their life congruently aligned with their highest values, they will maximize all their potential and resources to achieve their goals and live in a fulfilling life. But when people live according to their lower values, they end up frustrated, procrastinated and beat themselves up.
So the key here is if you want to achieve anything, make sure your goal is truly aligned with your highest values to increase your chance of achieving it and become more fulfilled when you have it.
When your goals are aligned with your values, you are inspired from within to take actions. You are more inspired to wake up every morning and do it because it’s important and meaningful to you.
Understanding your values will help you identify your purpose.
Watch the video below to learn how:
2 steps to take control of your values
Anthony Robbins, an American motivational speaker and self-help author, recommends a two step process to take control of our values:
- Step 1. Identify what your current values are, and rank these values in order of importance.
- Step 2: Ask yourself this question: “What do my values need to be in order to achieve the destiny I truly want, desire and deserve?” Brainstorm out a list. Now put this new list in order. Start analyzing your values to see which ones you might need to get rid of and which ones you might need to add in order to create the quality of life you truly want.
Remember your values shape your destiny. Knowing how to identify and understand your own unique values is probably the most important self help topic.
13 Questions That Help You Identify Your Highest Values
In his latest book The Value Factor, Dr Demartini provided the 13 questions that you can use to ask yourself to find out your hierarchy of values. They are:
#1. How do you fill your space?
#2. How do you spend your time?
#3. How do you spend your energy?
#4. How do you spend your money?
#5. Where are you most organized?
#6. Where are you most reliable?
#7. What dominates your thoughts?
#8. What do you visualize the most?
#9. What do you most often talk to yourself about?
#10. What do you often talk to others about?
#11. What inspires you?
#12. What goals stand out in your life and have stood the test of time?
#13. What topics do you love to study, read about or research?
When you have the answers for these 13 questions, you will realize there are repetitions. So make a list of the most occurred answers. The answers that show up the most are your current highest values. Notice your values will change from time to time, but no two people have the same values.
You are automatically a leader when you live your life evolving around your highest values. This is when you are most focused, disciplined, reliable and efficient.
From now on, when you set any goal, make sure you know and understand your current hierarchy of values to help you increase the probability of having success.